Last week, we all read the letter David wrote to his wife Deborah *damn was that letter brutally harsh*. Anyways, it seems it's not only the men who have something to say when it comes to marital defaulters. Popular Pastor of This Present House, Tony Rapu, also has some tips for married men to keep their marriage long-lasting and enjoyable.
The man of God took to his twitter account to give real time advice to married men on the best way to treat their wives. Here is a list of some of the tips he offered. I particularly love the one about football *tongue out*. So guyz take note and repent else you will be the one to see a letter as deadly as David's on your cabinet, just that this time it will be the other way round *wicked grin*
1. Your wife has the power to set the direction of your entire life
2. Your wife has to take priority above work and business and pleasure
3. Once you are married, you are married - no cheating
4. Buy your wife some jewelry *preach it pastor*
5. Please give your wife her space, she has 'tried'. *we aren't some machine, thank you*
6. Live with your wife. You asked her to marry you. Even if she asked you, you agreed. *devlish laugh*
7. Don't be rude to your wife in front of her maid. *PLEASE TELL THEM*
8. Stop blaming your wife when things don't work out for you. It's not her fault.
9. If your wife says she is lonely, then she is lonely.
10. Don't rush to try and fix your wife's problems first. Listen to her first
11. Don't resent your wife's family
12. Respect your wife's father, he brought her up *and made her the princess you married duh!!*
13. Your wife wants her feelings to be understood *that's true*
14. Stop fighting with your wife over money.
15. Intimacy goes beyond sexuality *now how many men know that*
16. Leave your mobile phone and bond with your wife
17. Stroke your wife's hair
18. Wash the dishes for your wife sometime *now that's what i'm talking about hahahahaha*
19. Don't call your wife mummy. She's not your mum *aaaaarghhhhhh*
20. Find a pet name for your wife. Honey, baby, darling not MUMMY
21. Stop flirting with your wife's girlfriends *hmmmm, guyz can you hear?*
22. Submission from your wife is easier when the one she is submitting to loves her enough to sacrifice his life for her.
23. Be a spiritual leader not a spiritual dominator
24. Stop shouting at your wife. She can hear you.
25. Sacrifice a football game to go to an event that your wife enjoys *pastor Tony you need to organize a seminar on this tip especially during the champions league*
26. The love and affirmation of your wife has the power to heal many of your deepest wounds *yea we are that special*
27. Saying 'I love you' to your wif eis great but showing it is better.
28. To your wife, a kiss is actually worth more than a thousand "I love you's".
29. Stop dumping your work issues and problems on your wife.
30. Stop taking out your frustrations on your wife
31. Make eye contact with your wife
32. Speak to your wife as your equal
33. Brag about your wife in public
34. Your wife is not inferior and should not be made to feel so.
35. Please leave your parents out of the marriage, she didnt marry your father or your mother *mama's boys take note*
36. Spend a weekend at a hotel with your wife. *we cherish it a lot*
37. Enjoy your life with your wife.
38. Stop complaining to your mother about your wife *it sucks*
39. If everyone in the world says you are ugly but your wife says you are beautiful, then you are.
40. If your marriage is strong, even with all the trouble around you, it won't matter. You'll be able to move out in strength
That's one interesting list. I hope the pastor adhere's to every tip in his list, if not .......... I guess am not in the position to call him out. We might just hear from his wife someday. But on a serious note the whole marriage thing is complicated.
ReplyDeleteYou might find a man dats dedicated and keeps to every tip on this list and the wife might nt be happy. So the key is to find out what makes her happy, though it's nt always as easy as it sounds but try to fulfill the request you can live with .
With all complications, we should always remember this saying * Happy wife.... Happy life* .