Is The Fight For Gender Equality Robbing Us Of Real Women?

Hey everyone, I am so sorry for being absent for such a long time. So many reasons can be attributed to it but I can't state all here. I'm truly sorry *winks*

So last week, I was discussing with a friend and our conversation stirred us towards the subject of gender equality. We argued so much on the topic because obviously I am a woman and I would not want to be put down by any man neither will I have my abilities looked down upon with disdain *now I'm beginning to sound feminist, but duh!! I'm a FEMALE so shoot me*

However, during the course of our argument, my friend made some valid points that made me to start evaluating the whole gender equality and woman rights movement. One of such points was that from the creation of man, the roles of men and women have been clearly defined. Men are natural providers, they were made to till the soil, work hard and provide for the family or whatever/whoever is put under their care. They were giving authority to 'rule'. Women, on the other hand were created as help mates, they are born nurturers. Their biological and psychological make up was specially designed to nurture, help, support and love.

However, with the new wave of civilization and the fight for gender equality, we are gradually loosing our women because they are all fighting to be equal to men. The truth of the matter is, no matter how long women try to fight for gender equality - both in the society and in the work place - it can never be guaranteed 100%. Why? because both sexes were never created to be equal. Each gender has unique strengths and weaknesses. Women are highly intuitive and sensitive, men on the other hand tend to be very logical and spontaneous in their actions. Physically, the strength of a man and a woman can not even be compared. A man, regardless of his age, is naturally stronger than a woman that is why specific job roles like building construction is best suited to men.

Is this to say that women are weak? Definitely NO! Infact in my opinion women are way stronger than men. How? women have the power of the mind which surpasses all other powers. If a woman purposes in her heart to get something or do something, she doesn't back down until she accomplishes whatever it is she has set out to do. Doubt me? Well go ask Delilah how she got Samson to reveal the secret of his strength. Or you can ask Sarah how she got Abraham to sleep with his maid even with all his righteousness. Not enough? Well probably you should ask Oprah Winfrey how she managed to overcome her traumatic childhood to become the richest black woman alive. Face it, women may not be strong physically, but they sure have a lot of things going for them.

Nevertheless, it seems this gender equality bruhaha is slowly robbing us of real women. Women are slowly forgetting their roles as wives and mothers and are delegating these roles to nannies and house maids.

Nannies prepare a man's favourite meal and in the process wins his heart (the cheating begins at this point) while his wife nags and complains about the challenges of balancing work and home management. In most cases, it is safe to say that nannies know more about a woman's children than the mother herself. They know when her daughter saw her first period and counsel her through it. They know when her son had his first crush and how shy and uncertain he was. These are things that these children cannot discuss with their mothers because they are there but not there at the same time. 

We are recording more divorces now than ever because we are teaching women that they are 'strong and beautiful'. The principle of submissiveness is decried while we breed haughty women who feel they can do all things themselves because they are financially independent.

You cannot have everything. You cannot expect to be a woman and yet neglect your natural God-given roles. Be hardworking *yes* Have a career *yes* but know that nothing goes for nothing. One would have to suffer - either your career or your family. Margret Thatcher, Britain's First Female Prime Minister, said in April 1995: “If I had my time again, I wouldn’t go into politics because of what it does to your family.”  Subsequently, she told she told Saga Magazine: “Look, you can’t have everything. It has been the greatest privilege being prime minister of my country… Yes, I wish I saw more of my children. We don’t have Sunday lunch together; we don’t go on holiday skiing any more. But I can’t regret. And I haven’t lost my children. They have their lives. I took a different life.” 

Don't get me wrong. I support the fight for girl-child education, the fight against female circumcision and forced marriages and all other evils that have been perpetuated against women in the name of tradition and custom. These are not the cases of gender equality I'm referring to. I'm talking specifically about our roles as women. Let us allow the men to be men and let's start focusing our energies on being great women who will change the world with our strengths. Let us work hard to be great mothers and amazing wives and also great female work colleagues and CEO's. Let us be real women that impact our societies positively and wrought positive changes with our uniqueness. We can do it. I BELIEVE!